It’s almost become a rite of passage in modern dating. You’re texting someone, laughing at their memes, even planning a potential meet-up… and then, nothing. No explanation. No closure. Just radio silence. Ghosting has become the unspoken villain of dating apps and budding relationships. But why does everyone do it?

A Shortcut to Avoid Awkwardness

In a world where it takes two seconds to unmatch, block, or simply stop replying, ghosting can feel like the easiest option. Confronting someone with a breakup text or an “I’m not feeling this” message might seem too daunting. The fear of hurting someone’s feelings often outweighs the importance of giving them clarity. Ironically, this avoidance often leaves the other person more confused and hurt.

If I’m being honest, I’m not immune to the lure of ghosting either. (Yes, guilty as charged.) There have been times when, instead of explaining why I wasn’t interested, I simply stopped replying. It wasn’t because I didn’t care about the other person’s feelings—it was just… easier. Easier than crafting an honest response and risk dealing with an emotional reaction. But looking back, I know that wasn’t the right thing to do. Ghosting might save you discomfort, but it robs the other person of the dignity of closure.

Technology Makes Us Replaceable

Let’s face it: Dating apps make people disposable. With countless profiles a swipe away, we often treat potential partners as though they’re easily replaceable. This “grass is greener” mentality has fueled a culture where cutting ties without warning feels normalized. Why take the effort to explain yourself when you’ve got three new matches waiting?

The Emotional Toll of Being Ghosted

For those on the receiving end, ghosting is more than just a moment of confusion. It’s a hit to self-esteem and a trigger for self-doubt. Did I say something wrong? Was I not enough? The lack of closure can leave people stuck in an endless cycle of overthinking. And let’s not forget the domino effect—being ghosted can make someone more likely to ghost others in the future, perpetuating the cycle.

Why We Need to Do Better

While it’s tempting to ghost, it’s worth considering the emotional fallout. A simple, kind message like “Hey, I don’t think this is working for me” might be uncomfortable, but it offers clarity and allows both people to move on. Ghosting, on the other hand, often leaves lingering hurt.

Turning the Tables: How to Handle Being Ghosted

1. Don’t Take It Personally: Ghosting says more about the ghoster’s inability to communicate than it does about your worth.

2. Avoid Overanalyzing: Replaying every conversation in your head won’t give you answers. Accept that the closure you seek may never come.

3. Learn and Move On: Use the experience as a reminder to treat others with the honesty and respect you wish you’d received.

   
   

Ghosting might be common, but that doesn’t make it right. While it’s easy to see the appeal of avoiding an awkward conversation, the emotional impact on the other person should make us think twice. And if you’ve been ghosted, remember: it’s not a reflection of your value.

Let’s all strive to bring a little more honesty—and humanity—to the way we connect.