Love & Relationships
December 19, 2024
How Travelling Together Can Make (or Break) A Relationship
Let’s set the scene: you’ve been dating for a while, things are going great, and you decide it’s time for a big milestone—a trip together. Travelling as a couple can be a dream come true or a reality check you didn’t see coming. It’s not just about the perfect Instagram shots or cozy dinners by the beach; it’s also about navigating the unexpected, like missed flights, lost luggage, or that one time they took a "shortcut" that added two hours to the hike.
The Magic of Travel
Travelling together can be an eye-opener in the best way possible. Sharing new experiences, like devouring street food in Bangkok, can create memories that deepen your bond. You see a different side of your partner—their curiosity, spontaneity, and even their quirks that make you smile (or roll your eyes).
Trips push you out of your comfort zones. Whether it’s trying to navigate a foreign metro system or figuring out how to order coffee in Italian, these moments show you how well you work as a team. Do you tackle challenges with humour and patience, or do you crumble under stress?
Spoiler alert: it’s often a mix of both, and that’s okay.
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When the Cracks Show
But let’s be real. Not every travel moment is golden-hour perfect. Long layovers, bad weather, or endless arguments over where to eat can test your patience. When you’re spending 24/7 with someone, the tiny habits you once found cute might start to drive you up the wall.
Are they a planner who wants an itinerary for every hour of the day, while you’re more of a "let’s see where the day takes us" type? Do they sulk when things don’t go their way? Or, worse, are they the kind of person who claps when the plane lands? (Just kidding. Kind of.)
The "Make" Moments
Here’s where travel becomes magical. In those tough moments, you learn how to communicate better and support each other. That’s when you find out if you’re partners who can face life’s curveballs together. Surviving that disastrous Airbnb with no Wi-Fi? That’s a story you’ll laugh about for years.
Couples who travel well together often find their relationship grows stronger. You’re creating a scrapbook of inside jokes, unforgettable sights, and yes, even those "remember when we almost killed each other" moments.
The "Break" Moments
On the flip side, travel can reveal incompatibilities that are impossible to ignore. If you’re fighting more than you’re having fun, it’s worth asking whether this is a travel hiccup or a sign of deeper issues.
The stress of travel can magnify flaws and bring hidden dynamics to light. Maybe one partner struggles to compromise, or perhaps you realize your conflict styles are completely mismatched. It’s painful, but sometimes it’s better to face those truths sooner rather than later.
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How to Set Your Relationship Up for Success
Communicate Expectations: Talk about what you both want from the trip—relaxation, adventure, or a mix of both. Aligning expectations is key.
Divide Responsibilities: Share the planning load. Maybe they’re great at booking accommodations while you handle the itinerary.
Plan for Alone Time: Yes, you’re traveling as a couple, but a little solo time can work wonders. Explore a museum on your own or take a morning jog while they sleep in.
Keep It Light: When things go wrong (and they will), try to laugh it off. A sense of humor can save the day.
Reflect Together: At the end of each day, talk about your favorite moments. It’s a sweet way to connect and appreciate the journey.
The Bottom Line
Travelling together is like a relationship boot camp—fun, challenging, and revealing. It’s an opportunity to grow closer or realize you’re not as compatible as you thought. Either way, it’s a chance to learn more about each other and yourselves.