Let’s talk about something that’s been happening around us a lot lately—why have modern relationships started to feel so… temporary?

It’s like we’re all stuck in this weird loop of “I like you, but do I like you enough to commit?” Or worse, “Wait, what if someone better is just a swipe away?”

It all feels so exhausting, right? So, is the problem with us, or is this the way dating works now?

The Endless Swipe Syndrome

Dating apps have turned finding love into scrolling through a menu. Don’t like someone’s profile? Swipe left. Think someone hotter or funnier is out there? Keep swiping. The problem is, when you’re spoiled for choice, it’s hard to settle on just one.

You meet someone great, but instead of focusing on what’s good, your brain goes, “What if there’s someone better?” And just like that, you’re back on the app, treating people like options instead of opportunities. Spoiler alert: the “perfect person” doesn’t exist.

Commitment? Too Much Work

Let’s get real about commitment—it’s so damn scary.

Relationships mean effort, compromise, and being vulnerable, and honestly, who’s signing up for that willingly?

We live in a world that celebrates independence and hustling. Between chasing dreams, careers, and self-growth, relationships can feel like an extra burden. Plus, with messy breakups and public divorces dominating our feeds, the fear of failure is real. It’s no wonder people hesitate before diving in.

Dating Apps: Love Them, Hate Them

Dating apps have made meeting people super easy, but they’ve also made love… shallow. Judging someone based on a few photos or a witty bio? That’s surface-level at best.

They also create this illusion of endless options.

You could be with someone great, but the moment things get tough, you start wondering, “What if someone better is out there?” It’s like a never-ending game of “the grass is greener,” and nobody wins.

Our Expectations Are Unrealistic

Here’s the truth: we’ve set the bar way too high. We want someone who’s a best friend, soulmate, therapist, and cheerleader all in one. But let’s be honest—no one can be all that.

Real love isn’t about perfection; it’s about showing up for each other, even on the messy days. But instead of putting in the work, we’ve been taught to think “If it’s not perfect, it’s not worth it.” And that’s where so many of us go wrong.

So, What’s the Fix?

If you’re nodding along (or maybe sighing a little), don’t worry. There’s hope.

• Stop chasing perfection. It’s a myth. Focus on finding someone who feels like home, not someone who ticks every box.

• Give people a real chance. Instant sparks are overrated. Chemistry grows when you let it.

• Be vulnerable. Yes, it’s scary, but it’s the only way to build something real.

Final Thoughts

Relationships today aren’t failing because love has changed—it’s because we’ve overcomplicated it. Love is messy, imperfect, and takes work. But that’s what makes it worth it.

So, the big question is: are you ready to stop swiping and start committing? Or are we all just stuck in this endless search for something that doesn’t exist?

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